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Thursday, July 11, 2013

The story of my hair

Once upon a time when I was very small, I had normal hair. It was only a few millimeters long so it was hard to tell, but it looked as normal as baby hair can be. Here is a picture for proof:

Baby Elle

I showed this picture to my Mom and Dad to make sure it was me, because I wasn't sure why my hair appears red in this picture. "Who is this," I asked, and BOTH of them instantly responded with, "Blair!" But then when they looked closer they said it was me after all. Apparently Blair and I were identical as babies. They say I had darker red hair, then it turned golden, and stays a dark golden to this day. My hair went on being "normal" for some time; I got several years of pretty "little girl hair", silky and blonde and always tied up with bows. 


Me and baby Blair

And then one day, when I was about 6 years old, I woke up and my hair was different. I don't remember this; I've just heard the stories from my Mom, but apparently it was as if I had been electrocuted in my sleep. My hair went from silky to insanely puffy and frizzy practically overnight, so my mom decided to keep it relatively short (shoulder-length) for the rest of my childhood and would continue to tie it up with bows to tame it. Honestly, what kind of fashion statement is this? I insisted on dresses every single day (and in fact refused to wear pants), and every dress had a matching bow. Therefore, every day I had my puffy hair tied up with a ridiculous bow. I wish I had more pictures of this time period, but I only have one more with me to show you. 

Fortunately this one sums up my personality quite well: dresses, hair bows, and a cat. That's my first kitty ever, Mr. Furball, the cat love of my life, whom I had from my 6th birthday until the summer before I left for college. He was eaten by a coyote practically in front of me, and honestly it was the most traumatic thing to ever happen to me. I know losing a beloved pet isn't as bad as losing a parent, or a friend, but he was my baby, and the one constant of my childhood. He is the reason I am such a cat lover. I still cry every time I even think about it. It's sweet though; he looked just like Pinecone... he was a white persian with blue eyes, and he was just as bonded to me as Pinecone is now. My Dad actually got me Bear and Bella as "mourning" presents to help get me over the deep depression I fell into when Furball was eaten, and it honestly helped. No one will ever take Furball's place in my heart, but I found brand new homes in my heart for Bear, Bella, and now Pinecone. But goodness, I digress. 


Puffy dress circa early 1990's, puffy hair tied up with enormous bow, and a white kitty.

You can see in this picture that the texture of my hair is getting thicker... more course, and more frizzy. From the age of 6 until about 9th grade (around age 14) my hair was terrible. Every time I would go to get it trimmed the hairdresser would berate my mom about "frying her hair with perms" but here's the thing... I had never had a perm! My hair was just terrible! Impossible to control, impossible to tame... thank goodness I grew out of it. While my hair was straight as a child, as it changed in temperament it became curlier, and even now it's curly, even though I have learned to tame it. You guys have obviously seen my hair loads of times, in videos and pictures, but few of you have seen it in it's complete natural state. 

Last night I washed it, but felt so lazy that I didn't want to deal with it at all - not even to put basic product in it. I can't remember the last time that I put absolutely nothing in it. Guys, I didn't even brush it! I broke all the hair rules and stuck my wet hair on stop of my head straight out of the shower, and left it. I woke up this morning, and goodness gracious guys, there was a curly mop on my head. *Inserts mop hair picture*




The thing is, I think my hair could be worn beautifully curly, but every time I try to use product it becomes crunchy, or it weighs it down and straightens it, or it doesn't hold the curl, or it frizzes up. I can not for the life of me figure out how to take advantage of my curly mop! Oh and for those of you that would think, "just wear it like that!" I can't, because it actually doesn't look that good from the back. The back of my head is all flat and weirdly crimped. Here's a poor quality iPhone picture, attempting to show you the back. Can you see how the crown of my head is flat and weird? The curls just don't look natural at the scalp, they just sit flat.


So my question for my fellow curly-haired gals is, what do you do to keep your curls intact without making them crunchy or look like any product was used at all? I love the natural, tousled feel of these curls but can't wear it as it is, because the crown looks too "bed-head" like. Please let me know in a comment - I want to figure this out! I would love to be able to wear my hair natural, I've just never been able to get it right. 

So there you have it, the story of my hair. The story of the curls that never were. The story of the girl with the... er. Well, you get the point. 

Oh P.S. I'm wearing my adorable Soma PJs - I have these in several patterns and they are absolutely the softest! My Mom and I have some matching pairs. We are twinsies with our matching PJs and wine :)

206 comments:

  1. My Sister had a pretty much identical hair story to yours! So funny, because we all thought it was so odd.
    I think it can be pretty tough with super curly hair to make it completely manageable, just because curls in general can get tangly, and harder to work with.
    But, I always hear good things about mousse, and I think it's bumble to bumble has a straightening serum that helps control the frizz and crunchiness post shower and product use.
    You do have gorgeous curls though! You're lucky to have them like that!

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    1. Have you ever plopped? (I know this sounds gross, but google it.)http://www.wikihow.com/Plop-Your-Hair

      After plopping, I basically diffuse with a heat protectant and this method...
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QvXyZz6Z2nI

      My curls aren't as defined as the youtube girl's, they're closer to big barrel curls, but you get the idea.

      To actually tame my frizzies (Elle, you don't seem to have a problem with frizz, but I do) I like to use "smt's" like 3x a week (I only wash my hair every other day or every 2 days)
      SMT Recipe
      4 parts non-protein, cheapy conditioner like VO5
      1 part honey
      1 part clear aloe gel (not the blue or green ones)

      Heat in the microwave for a few seconds until it's warm, then apply to wet or dry hair (if you do either wet or dry and don't like it, wait a few days and try it the opposite way. For some reason, some hair doesn't like one but loves the other).

      Cover your hair with a plastic shower cap or shopping bag or whatever and a warm towel and let it sit for as long as you can stand it (30 minutes to overnight). Rinse out, no shampoo.

      Oh, SMT = snowy mountain treatments, I got the recipe from Long Hair Community forums, and she's pretty iconic there.

      http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?t=128

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    2. check out my blog post on how to deal with nauturally curly hair
      xoxo audrey

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  2. I kind of love the crazy curls!! Your hair reminds me of Kate Hudsons in How to Lose a Guy in 10 days :) (p.s. cute pjs!! I'm on the hunt for some cute ones and VS isn't cutting it lol) xx

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    1. ouuu Elle-belle would you mind sharing which styles of the soma pjs you've tried?

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    2. I have two types - the short sleeve and shorts combos, and the little night dresses. I heart them both!

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  4. OH AND have you attempted to use a diffuser? My curly-haired friends love it :)

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  5. I have highly textured kinky hair and I can tell you the number one rule is to not use mousse and gel. Don't use any products with alcohol period. A good leave in conditioner is all you need. The reason your roots look like that is because you pull your hair up when drying when you should part it and let it air dry as it would hang naturally. If you really want a styler try Shea Moisture Curl Defining Smoothie (Target).

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    1. When I let it air dry down it doesn't get as curling - the curls kinda straighten out :( That would be easier...

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    2. So you blow dry with the diffuser upside down! If you don't want volume along the lengths then just do the roots. Also, you MUST, MUST ready Curly Girl (book about Deva Curl products and techniques). Teaches you how to wash your hair to keep it curly (actually makes a HUGE difference) and style. I believe in using alcohol, but no sulfates of silicones.

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  6. My hair is totally the same way!! I FINALLY found my holy-grail-curly-hair-routine...Get some curling mousse, doesn't matter what brand and I'm broke so I use Fruictus or Herbal Essences, and us a small pump of mouse. Don't run it through your hair, but rub your hands together, flip your head upside down, and scrunch the mousse into your hair.
    Now, use a diffuser to blowdry your hair. If you don't want it TOO curly, blowdry until 90% dry, and as the last bit dries it'll loosen down a bit. Once fully dry (& cool), I'll gently separate with my fingers.
    Perfect curls that last all day (and the next, if I want), with no frizz and no crunch :)

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  7. My hair used to be just as crazy and hard to tame. I recently lost it to chemotherapy but its coming back in curly! I'm hoping it will be way more manageable! One product that I saw make a difference is its a 10! The keratin treatment really helped as well! If you find something that works for you please share! I'd love to know the secret once my hair is long enough to style again!

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    1. aww, I'm so happy it's coming back so pretty! I'll let you know if I figure it out, and I want to try It's a 10!

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    2. So happy your hair is coming back in; hope the chemo worked and you kicked your cancer's ass!

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  8. Okay Blair, I have only watched from afar but on the topic of managing the blessing of having curly hair, I'm going to weigh in.
    My hair is JUST like this and I learned about 15 years ago what to do with it. Ready?
    While you are in the shower, with conditioner in your hair, comb it out with a wide tooth comb, rinse out the conditioner and gently wrap the towel around your head. Do not comb again, do not shake out, don't run your fingers through it....nothing. THEN take a product like argan oil, or any oil and use about the size of a quarter and working from the bottom up, squish it into your hair. DON'T tip your hair upside down, ever. Just squish the oil around. THEN let it air dry. Best if you let it air dry while you sit still, like at the computer. No fans overhead, no open windows or sitting outside with a breeze. The curls will then dry in perfect thick locks. Once it is completely dry, you can shake it out a bit but never upside down or finger combing. I do my hair like this when it is just too hot to blow it out or if it is rainy.
    Good luck.
    @smartycassie

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    1. oh thank you so much!! this really helped! I'm gonna try this :)

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    3. I totally agree with Cassie, Elle, oil's the way to go. My hair is a lot like yours, unruly wave/curl, except mine is fine. So not only do I not like the crunchy 90's curls, with fine hair, that look makes my curls/waves look too separated at the scalp. However, I do think that scrunching your hair upside down, initially when first putting the product in, IS good. For example, have you ever seen those girls with curly hair, but it's "flat" on top... not cute. Flipping, initially, will allow some of those curls to gain some volume on top. Then air dry while checking computer/emails, but sitting still, (ceiling fan okay, actually best if not you'll be sitting there half the darn day), then shake, scrunch when FULLY dry. And voila! P.S. I'm a Southern gal, and where I'm from, it's also VERY humid, SO as much as I don't want a mousse, I have to use something that'll hold a curl because I don't want them to fall and hang as soon as I go outside and end up looking like Alanis Morrisette. So I use a mixture of an oil and Samy's Get Curls Curl Reactivating Lotion found in drug stores.
      I've also heard great things of that Deva Curl line sold at Ulta, but have never taken the plunge. Love and Success to you! :-)

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    4. I have hair a lot like yours. Its really nice curls but just completely uneven and I definitely have that awkward crown. I do this same argan oil technique that Cassie does! Argan has become my best friend. The next morning all I do is spritz some sea salt spray (currently using Victoria's Secrets version but not sure if I like the smell) and sometimes finish off with argan oil style and hold spray. For the first time in my life I have really low maintenance hair!

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    5. Yup Cassie is right! My hair is the same way. I have thick hair though so letting it dry down {sitting at a computer} makes my hair frizzy in the front, so I usually sleep with it wet like you do. Put oil in but not from the roots! Also if you don't like some of the pieces when you wake up just curl those specific pieces and leave the rest =)

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  9. i have the same EXACT problem/hair (except in dark brown/black). omg. i hope you find a solution because i don't have time to sit around heat styling it every day! (besides, even when i do, it frizzes up the second it comes into contact with any heat/humidity

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  10. I have crazy curly hair, and I found that after I shower if I let it dry just a tad bit, and than add light weight styling products, then it actually behaves and curls like it's supposed to! It took a lot of trial and error, but letting it dry a little seems like the magic potion to me!

    P.S. You where super adorable as a little kid!

    thissideofthemind.blogspot.com

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  11. My question is what does yiur hair look like when u don't put in product and let it air dry when its down. Maybe cuase u had it in a messy knot on top it created those messy "bedhead" at thw roots therein not letti g them properly dry in thier "natrual" state.or another thing would be to try a dry oil (garnier just put one out) on damp hair then diffuse. These are some some things I think may help. Also there is a YouTuber called shamelessmaya who has a cruly girl hair products video with girls of different races and hair types showing thier curly girl routine.

    Hope anything I've mentioned helps.

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  12. I have Felicity (hello late 90s!) curly hair. One thing I have learned is that it has to be fresh/not slept on. Sleeping seems to de-curl. Also, curl enhancing products weigh it down, with the exception of Moroccan Oil curl enhancing lotion (I think that is the name). It defined my curls better than anything ever has. So, I wash with moisturizing shampoo + conditioner (currently Davines). On days I don't want to wash, I just rinse it and use the conditioner. After shower, I just use a really light leave-in (Davines delicate spray) and comb. Works really well for me and my hair can get crazy frizzy. In my experience, moisture is the key to bouncy curls. I hope this helps you!

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  13. Another tip is to use a blow drier with negative ions. They control the frizz

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  14. My hair was always unmanageable in my pre-teen and middle school years. I have quite curly hair yet the texture of my hair is smooth. I would straighten (or attempted to.. it mostly looked like a wavy mess) it everyday and I did that for a couple years. One day, I let my hair go, and was surprised at the curls and how they looked in my hair. I was previously convinced I had to straighten my hair or it would look ridiculous. I tried all sorts of gels and hair products and either got flakey dried up product or frizz like no other. After trying so many products to keep my hair, I have found the perfect product. It's the TRESEMME FLAWLESS CURLS MOUSSE. I SWEAR by it. I have bought so many of these and have never had a problem with my curls. They are not frizzy or crunchy. They are definitely "touchably smooth". This is the only styling product I use on a day to day basis to maintain my curls. You should definitely go get it!

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  15. First of all, your pajama top is adorable (and so is little baby Elle)! For all curly and wavy textures I have come across Ouidad products tame and smooth and define the curl without getting crunchy. My hair is a wild, ferocious animal and the products do wonders for evening everything out and making my hair look nice and tame. Try them if you haven't! And seriously, where did you get your PJs? :)

    jackierobertsbeautybomb.wordpress.com

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    1. Which Ouidad products are your favorite? And they are from Soma Intimates! It's linked in the post, because I thought people would ask ;)

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    2. I just went back and looked, I'm so dumb! But it's 1AM where I am so blame it on the insomnia okay! :) My favorites are the Climate Control shampoo (it tames frizz and works through ANY humidity) and the Moisture Lock leave in conditioner! But the best part is that it caters to your specific hair needs depending on your specific curl type. I swear by it, I used to straighten my hair everyday until my hair lady told me I'd be bald by 30 if I didn't stop :/. This really saved my hair and made me enjoy wearing it curly!

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    3. Have you tried Deva Curl? I like it so much better than Ouidad. :)

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    4. I have and I liked what it did to my hair, but I was allergic to it and would break out where my hair would touch my face. :(

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  16. Hi Elle,

    I couldn't help but to comment, as I am a curly girl myself. You have a lovely natural curl! However, curls certainly have a mind of their own :). What I have found to work the best is, less is more. I wash my hair and comb it out in the shower. I then let it air dry, before going to sleep. I do not put any product in the night before. When I wake up, I mist my hair with a little water. This helps calm any craziness down. I then add a nickel amount of leave-in conditioner to my hair. I focus the conditioner more on the ends. I then go about my morning letting my hair air dry once again.

    This last step is optional, but it was one I have to do sometimes to remove that bed head up on top that you were talking about. Some curls just do not want to do what they are supposed to. In this case, I go over a couple with a really thin curling wand. I run my fingers through these pieces so they do not look too "perfect."

    Depending on my mood, at the end I may also add a little oil to smooth anything out or hairspray/dry shampoo for volume in flat areas (this all just depends on what my hair feels like doing that day).

    Overall, this takes me a total of 5-10 minutes.

    I would really avoid mouses and gels, they are what create "crunchy" looking curls and I prefer a softer more natural look :)

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  17. I'm sure you've probably already tried Paul Mitchell's Skinny Serum, but I love it. I comb through the tangles after I get out of the shower, scrunch a small amount into my hair when it's still pretty wet, and then I let it air dry.

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  18. Have you ever tried the curly girl method? That's what I go. It takes some time and practice to find exactly what works for you but once you do it's great! There is a book called The Curly Girl Metgoc by Lorraine Massey (I think) and YouTube videos.

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    1. Best thing ever!! Just the shampooing technique and not using a towel but an old t-shirt to dry my hair made a HUGE difference!

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  19. I have wavy hair, not incredibly curly, but I have some "Jew" curls around my face. Whenever I want to have beautiful, natural looking curls, I shower, brush my hair, towel dry it, put it in a topknot, sleep on it, and in the morning I take it down, brush through it, spray in some heat protectant spray, straighten a few bits and pieces around my face, put in some shine spray or oil, add some light hairspray like Paul Mitchell (my absolute favorite!), and TA-DA! I have glamourous curls and it looks like I spent a good 45 minutes to and hour curling my locks, when really, I just slept on them. I also helps if your pillowcases are made out of silk!

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  20. Bah! I need to edit before I post. I meant The Curly Girl Method is what I do. Really I only mastered my curly hair last year and I'm 28. It takes trial and error to find what works for you. I find though that my curly hair looks best if I don't straighten it regularly. The damage from straightening makes my hair weird and frizzy. Good luck finding what works for you!!!

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    1. I use the curly girl method as well! And Deva Curl products! They are amazing!!

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  21. I only use an oil and if I have to go to sleep before it's dry I put it in two french braids, one on each side of my head, so that way I don't flatten out the roots. This makes it less wavy than curly. If I want it curly then I wash my hair in the morning using Ouidad Playcurl Volume shampoo. Or Ojon's Dry recovery shampoo. Then I really love Orifluido's Beauty Elixar as my hair oil or the cheap spray in Argon Oil you can get from Ulta.

    Most of the time I blow it out straight, because it's easier for me to contend with.

    Mana
    Fashion and Happy Things

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  22. Try R&B from Lush, it really helped with my hair, which is along the same lines as yours.

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  23. When I'm in the shower, I put in Macadamia Natural Oil Deep Repair Masque, comb it through and leave for 10-15 minutes. Right before I get out of the shower I rinse my hair in cold water (helps reduce frizz) then comb it one more time then rinse it again. To dry my hair I scrunch it with a towel, so it's still somewhat damp then apply It's A 10 Miracle Leave In Product Plus Keratin and scrunch. Then if I'm washing my hair in the morning I apply Moroccan Oil Intense Curl Cream and if I'm washing at night I apply Aveda Be Curly Curl Enhancer. My tip for sleeping with curly hair is to not sleep until it is fully or almost fully dry then do the pineapple method, which is putting your hair in a loose ponytail on top of your hair and you wake up with perfect voluminous curls. Hope I helped!

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  24. Goodness, I have the same story! I had very silky straight hair as a child, then I noticed my hair getting puffy and frizzy in middle school (and it didn't help that some jerk kids made fun of me for it)!

    Throughout middle and high school, the frizzy puff turned into real curls eventually. I also learned about a million different ways to straighten it. In college, I straightened it often, but started to love my curls a little bit, as well.

    Fast forward to now: I live in swampy DC, so straightening my hair in the summer is NEVER an option, as it turns into a giant frizz ball the second I even think about stepping outside.

    My go-to routine:
    Extra moisturizing (but NOT heavy) shampoo and conditioner.
    Weekly deep conditioning treatment.
    Once I am out of the shower, I will comb through my hair (recently I have starting combing it all back, instead of parting it). I'll let it sit for a little while, and do my makeup, then I'll run my hands through and kind of scrunch it up to get the bottom and the crown to curl like the top layers.
    Then I DO NOT touch it until it's completely dry.
    Only when it's dry, I will spray in some leave-in conditioner to define the curls.
    Sometimes I'll use a finishing creme to add more shine, or make the curls more piece-y and beach-y.

    I've heard really great things about the Miss Jessie's line of curly hair products. I've seen them at Target, but they are out of my price range at the moment. But curly girls seem to love the Pillow Soft Curls, and more recently, the new Jelly Soft Curls.

    Thanks for posting this, and I hope you find a routine that helps you fall in love with your curls!

    www.happyprettydc.tumblr.com

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  25. I'm so sorry to hear about your cat Mr. Furball. That sounds so extremely traumatizing and I don't know what I'd do if that happened to one of my 2 cats. Poor thing :(

    As for the hair, while I know everyone has different problems and the grass is always greener on the other side, I wish I had your thick, albeit crazy hair lol. My hair is so thin and fine. It gets super oily after one day, breaks very easily, and doesn't hold a curl. Asian hair lol. I hope you find something that works for you because your natural hair is beautiful!

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  26. I know your hair isn't as curly as hers, but this video helped me with my curls a lot. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qFyDMEj1Sk

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  27. Personally whenever I have days like that I twist my hair until It is in a bun right on the top of my head. The curls come out pretty well and I like the results :)

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  28. You have lovely hair wish my hair went his curl mine just goes abit wavy. My friend has extremely curly hair and swears by a good serum x

    Carrieanne x

    http://beautiesunlocked.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/review-bourjois-volume-clubbing-ultra.html

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  29. Hey Elle! I think our hair textures are very similar, mine is maybe a bit curlier than yours. Like others have mentioned, your roots would turn out nicer if they dried while your hair was down. Since you said you have issues with your hair not curling/getting weighed down when you do that, I thought I would recommend a couple of techniques:
    -Rake & Shake: This is a Ouidad technique, you can look up a video of it. Basically you apply your product by raking your fingers through your hair, then when your fingers reach the ends of your hair (with strands of hair between your fingers), you shake the strands to encourage then to curl together. I do this on very wet hair (because that's how I apply my products) and it works wonders.
    -Scrunching: After you apply product, you can also scoop hair into your palm, lift it up towards your scalp and scrunch it a few times to encourage the curls.
    -Plopping: You should look this up too, it's basically flipping your hair upside down and wrapping it in an old t-shirt to dry (you could also do it with a towel but t-shirt fabric reduces frizz). I usually apply my products and then plop my hair for about 20 minutes and then airdry it down the rest of the way. This way, your curls get a chance to dry a bit while they are up against your head, so they won't get weighed down and will curl better, but then your roots will finish drying while laying down in the right direction, so they will look nicer.
    -Products: this is totally trial and error. Mousse works for a lot of people. Don't be afraid of gel though! I apply (to dripping wet hair, right after I turn off the shower) a leave-in conditioner (Kinky Curly Knot Today), an anti-frizz serum (Curly Hair Solutions Curl Keeper), and a cheapo high hold gel (Dippity-do Sport, or LA Looks Sport). It makes my curls very defined and very soft. If my hair dries crunchy, I "scrunch out the crunch" (another technique you can google!) and it goes totally soft.

    I hope you experiment more with your natural hair texture, it does take some trial and error. Good luck!

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  30. http://www.mydevacurl.com/ and also check out Curly Girl: The Handbook. Link on Amazon right here http://www.amazon.com/Curly-Girl-Handbook-Michele-Bender/dp/076115678X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1373607645&sr=8-1&keywords=the+curly+girl+method
    As someone who has kinky curly hair it has helped me immensely. Up until 2 years ago, I heat styled, flat ironed, relaxed, straightened (which put me $600 in the hole), did everything I could to essentially make my curls non existent. Reading this has really helped me accept the curls coming out of my head. Although I haven't tried the products, I do recommend using light weight creams when styling. I use an olive oil cream to tame frizz and make my hair shiny. Plus it smells like fruit. Usually right after I shower, I put it on and let it air dry. No help from the wind, a fan, a blow dryer. The curls coil beautifully :)

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    1. I couldn't agree more! I'm a curly girl myself! The method is amazing! And it works beautifully with Deva Curl products!

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  31. I have a fairly similar hair story to yours. I use a straightening shampoo and conditioner (TreSumme has worked the best). I hardly ever use a hair dryer on my hair because it just makes it frizzier. I do add a little mousse after I towel dry my hair, and put it in a bun on the top of my head.

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  32. ELLE! I would HIGHLY recommend Deva Curl! I know you have tried it in the past, as I have been a fan of yours for a long time, but honestly, you should give it another try. I have extremely frizzy hair and my curls have been out of control my whole life. I have literally tried every product on the market for curly hair and nothing worked and they all made my hair, like you said, crunchy and weighed down. I found Deva Curl about three years ago, and haven't bought anything else for my hair since. The products, when used correctly, hydrate your hair and eliminate frizz altogether, while at the same time defining your curls and maintaining even volume all around your head.
    This might sound funny, but Deva Curl is somewhat of a lifestyle. Don't judge it until you've given the entire method a good try. And by that I mean go to a Deva Curl specialist and have a consultation! They teach you how to use the products the right way so you can get the best results. They are trained to deal with all textures, sizes, and thicknesses of curly girls. I'm sure there are many Deva specialists in LA- Give it a try!
    If you don't want to, then here's my Deva Curl two cents to help with your gorgeous curls:
    1) Hydration, hydration, hydration. I only wash half of the conditioner out of my hair. Believe me, you will notice a difference!
    2) When diffusing your hair, clip the top sections up so they are elevated- that way the air will get underneath and dry it in that way and you won't end up with a flat crown and volume on the bottom. (a huge pet peeve of mine). Let it cool for a few minutes, take out the clips, and shake it out. Voila! Volume!
    3) Start scrunching your hair the minute you get in the shower- when shampooing, conditioning, applying gel, drying, etc. (I also do everything upside-down with my head tilted forward- it helps with the volume!)
    4) If anything, try the Heaven in Hair Conditioning Mask from Deva Curl. Use it once a week or biweekly. It hydrates amazingly, and it smells divine!

    I hope this helps, and I hope you will give Deva Curl a try. It really is amazing stuff and has honestly changed my life. If you have any more questions about it, let me know- I love talking curls! Best of luck on your hair journey!

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  33. You know those pictures you saw in History books of African American woman back in the day? Yeah I have similar hair, & I'm not African American. I HATE it. It's curly, frizzy, puffy & dry. The only thing that tames it? Gel. I hate gel, its bad & crunchy & I just hate it. I'm hoping to one day shave my head & wear a wig 24/7, I'm not kidding. But goodluck to you, your hair is WAY better than mine.

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  34. I personally love my curls very Carrie Bradshaw :) I comb through in the shower, once i get out i put moroccan oil on the ends and a pea size amount of leave in conditioner and then a (no part) half up half down pony (best when you don't brush it). When i wake up i get volume on the crown and soft curls on the bottom. Also if you sleep on a satin pillowcase it really helps reduce breakage which can make your hair look even frizzier xoxo

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  35. What cute baby/childhood pictures!

    www.restlessturnstyle.com

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  36. Have you tried putting your up in bantu knots overnight? Or maybe not one topknot but 4 that would get rid of the "back of scalp wierdness". Have you tried hair trying rollers in your hair?. Also natural hair styles for curly hair ideas on youtube are amazing.

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  37. The reason it goes crimped and crazy is because you have slept on it and had it in a hair tie which causes sharp kinks rather than curly waves. Maybe try adding a little mousse or serum eg John Freida frizz ease and sleeping with it in a sock bun instead of just a top knot. Like this; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FV-YO46E8Y&feature=youtube_gdata_player This technique works well for me, usually my curls drop out...but not with this method!
    xxx

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  38. I personally LOVE the Bed Head "foxy curls contour cream." It helps my curls stay in place for the whole day, but doesn't leave my hair feeling crunchy. I get many compliments on how soft my hair feels from my friends, which you wouldn't expect after using such a gooey hair product.

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  39. If you want your hair to work curly, straightening actually makes it go flat at the top. A friend of mine has amazing curls and what she does is just regularly poof it from the scalp with your fingers regularly and it seems to work for her. She also said applying on some mousse also helps, and so far the best thing that prevents frizz is spraying on some keratin spray while the hair is wet.

    Do inform of what works best for you!!..<3

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  40. Your curl pattern looks like mine with the back going in random directions and no volume/curl at the crown. While every girl's hair is different this is what works for me :)

    I wash my hair every few days. I use DevaCurl No-Poo Conditioning Cleanser (which is amazing) then I follow up with any conditioner I have on hand (using Tresemme currently). Then I wrap a cotton t-shirt around my hair until its not dripping with water then I apply Bumble & Bumble's Bb Curl Conscious Defining Creme. I smooth it out from nape to neck then flip my head over and focus on the crown and just scrunch it until my curls are nice and defined. I air dry and then my curls are bouncy and happy and I have volume!!!

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  41. Such a lovely story and pictures!
    Thanks Elle!!

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  42. My general philosophy is that for everyday natural hair, I should use minimal heat (by minimal I am not kidding, I only straighten the top thirds-halves of my fringe area) and I should really limit the number of products I use.

    My routine includes getting out of the shower and combing my hair slicked back, working in a nourishing serum/leave in conditioner as well as a curling gel, wrapping my hair in an old t-shirt to dry instead of a towel, and then once all of the excess water is removed, pulling my damp hair up into a neat cinnamon-style bun (just the normal kind where you twist one large strand of hair around itself) as close to the top of my head that is comfortable.

    I like sleeping on this because it does not come undone when I toss and turn since the bun is secure. Also, in the morning when I take the bun out, I find that my hair has been shaped to have physical lift at the roots without teasing because it was pulled up on the top of my head for so many hours. The reason this method works so well when it comes to the actual curls is that overnight, my curls shape into the pattern of the twist in the bun so that when I let my hair down in the morning, the curls are uniform, which makes them look like not a big mess. I mean my hair is still wet when I take it down, but since the curls have adapted to the pattern of the twist, they will dry mostly in that same pattern. One thing to think about is that, since your hair is a lot shorter than mine (I have very long hair), your twist in your bun might not be as thick as mine and the curls may turn out to be more ringlet-y.

    If for some reason I decide to shower in the morning instead of at night, I will do mostly the same thing but instead I will tie my hair into two low pigtails, then twist the two strands of hair in the direction away from my face, and wait for the twist to be mostly dry and then comb them out with my fingers and let the hair completely dry.

    You may have tried methods similar to this and found that they didn't work which I totally understand. Every curly-haired girl really has to find her own method that works best because, unlike straight hair, curly hair doesn't always follow the same patterns between different people. If you try this out, I hope it helps!

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  43. I use to have pin straight, smooth hair up until middle school! My hair shifted into curls, frizz, and waves. I don't even know why... One hairstylist suggested me highlighting/coloring did it but that seemed unlikely. The curls drove me crazy all through high school, for a long time I'd "tame" it with heat(which wasn't good of course).

    I too wasn't enthusiastic about gel or hair clay. Basically, I have fought with my curls for a long time. I actually did a Keratin hair treatment, Kerastraight (supposedly formaldehyde free) a couple years ago. The results were amazing. My hair wasn't pin straight but instead more gentle waves and less frizz. Way more manageable! I've been told it's more effective to do it a second time, but I was fairly satisfied with just one treatment.

    Even after the treatment has worn off I still use keratin shampoos and conditioners that are sulfate free. I feel it makes my hair less frizzy and more tame, it actually seems to work for my hair. But that's just what I have preferred personally.

    Sometimes a tiny bit of sea salt spray can work I feel without being too heavy. I'd keep experimenting with products, methods, and different ways of drying your hair.

    Let us know if anything works : )

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    2. Also, sorry to hear about your childhood cat. I too lost my cat whom I got at six years old just a couple months ago to a coyote (I am starting my junior year of college in the fall).

      Anyway, I'm really enjoying your blog!

      P.S. Do you think you could do a video or post on traveling with Pinecone?

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  44. My hair has always been straight and I could never achieve the wavy look most straight haired girls envy. Two products that have worked well for me to bring a little wave without the crunch have been Herbal Essence's Tousle Me Softly spray gel and Garnier Fructis' spray gel (both the strong hold and the lesser hold "wonder waves"). I typically will put my hair in a messy bun on top of my head until it's about 85% dry and then use one of the products I listed to define the waves the messy bun created. I've learned the less product/less I mess with it the better it turns out. I have long thick hair and adding too much product weighs it down even more and the curls just fall flat.

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  45. My hair is like that too but longer and thicker. I'm not a fan of hot tools because they damage hair too much. I always let my hair air dry. Recently, I started using Paul Mitchell sea salt spray and it helps a lot to define the curls. It doesn't make my hair crunchy or sticky at all. Just spray and crunch the hair in your hands a few times and you're good to go!

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  46. I looove you blogs :) I would be happy if you can check out my blog :). I am from Slovakia and I started writing my posts in english too.

    http://sanni-zuzi.blogspot.sk/

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  47. I know that Theodore Leaf posted a video on fixing curly/frizzy with a curling iron. You can fix the straightness of the top of your head with his tips!

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  48. I would reccommed one of those foams that hold the curl. Or blow drying it with that thing that is specific for curly hair (I can't remeber the name)
    You were so cute as a child elle!!

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  49. My hair is exactly the same if I sleep with it up and wet, and as good as it looks in the morning, it never stays :(

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  50. My hair is the exact same, large, frizzy, thick, and curly. When I get out of the shower I let my hair air-dry about half way, at least so it isn't dripping wet. Then I use 1 to 1 1/2 pumps of the John Frieda Frizz-Ease Serum (depending on how humid it's going to be) then I hop in my bed and sleep with it down. I find that sleeping with it up creates the same effect that you described above. I hope this helps!

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  51. Have you tried typing your hair like this? https://sites.google.com/site/habioku/about-hair/hair-typing

    When you figure it out, you can head over to http://www.longhaircommunity.com/ forums. You can even post your pic there for them to help you figure out your hair type! It's not all about long hair and certainly not all members want to grow to extreme lengths, there's also a lot of info about how to treat certain hair types, threads about different routines (conditioner only and such)... Plus, the place is quite friendly. I've been going there for years and it's amazing seeing people come with frizzy, crazy hair, only to switch up their routine and end up with beautiful curls or waves.

    Here are just a couple of curlies threads, so that you get the idea (even though I kind of remember you posting on twitter about going on a similar site a while ago).

    http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?t=369&page=711
    http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?t=96338

    Maybe these threads aren't that helpful (and they're quite long) but trust me, if you spend some time roaming around the forums... You won't regret it. :)

    Have a nice day!

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  52. Your hair both sounds and looks VERY similar to mine, except I was born with my "poof" as I like to call it. Paul Mitchell makes a curling gel called "Round Trip" - it's sortof hard to find, I purchase mine off of Amazon or at the Salon where I get my hair done. But it is amazing.

    My hair is naturally curly and this doesn't make my hair crunchy or weighed down. It also last FOREVER. I use about five pumps (I have pretty thick hair) and that does the job. I still use Moroccain oil or some type of oil to add moisture, but those are my two products I use and my hair feels healthier because it doesn't have a TON of product in it.

    Hope that was helpful! I love your blog by the way - I enjoy reading blogs more than watching YouTube as well :)


    Melissa


    classybymelissa.blogspot.com

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  53. Short and sweet: TIGI Catwalk Curl Amplifier on wet hair. TIGI Ego Boost on dry/second day hair. Holy grail!!

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  54. The trick is to "scrunch the crunch" out. Use a mousse or even a gel, scrunch it with your hands, and then let it air dry. Then rub an oil or serum all over your hands and re-scrunch your hair once it's dry. It breaks up the crispiness, but the curls stay intact. Just DON'T run your fingers through it. Bad things happen, like the electrocuted look.

    The first product basically forms a shell around each curl so that it dries in shape, and then you kind of remove that shell once it's dry.

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  55. I loved this post, Elle! I know exactly what you mean by you haven't found a way to wear it natural. It seems like we both have the same hair texture, so if any of you guys know how to style curly hair, let me know!!
    Also, it would mean a lot if people would check out my new blogspot - I just started it yesterday! :)
    www.styleforbreakfastxo.blogspot.ca

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  56. my friend had super straight hair and once she hit early teens it turned into ringlets!

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  57. My hair has straight bits and curly bits - I wouldn't say that it's wavy necessarily, my strands of hair just disagree with each other on what they should be. Regardless, adorable baby pictures! Maybe an 'Elle through the years' post with child pictures is necessary :)

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  58. 1. Check out naturallycurly.com & take their quiz. It will help you determine your 'curl type'. Mine is between 2A and 2B, wavy. It will give you articles and product recommendations for your specific hair type.
    2. stay away from sulfates! i try to use all natural shampoos & use deep conditioners & natural products in general.
    3. ONLY comb your hair in the shower w/ conditioner in it. Once you're out, don't even comb your fingers through it. Tossle and scrunch it. DONT use a terry cloth towel in it, get a microfiber towel or use a cotton t-shirt.
    4. use a hair oil, but then let it air dry for awhile before you put anything else in it

    My current favorite curly hair products are...
    argan oil, or amika's oil (for straight out of the shower)
    use a curl cream (I'm still trying to find 1 i love)
    original moxie's just gel (I use this if i don't have time and just put 1 thing in my hair)
    if i feel like i need a hair spray, i use the garnier fructis flexible hold (2) anti-humidity one
    devacurl set it free (for when my dry hair needs 'refreshed', use this usually after i go to the gym or before leaving work.)

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  59. Use Aveda's Be Curly curl enhancing product right when you get out of the shower- about a nickel-quarter sized amount. Then, sleep on it!!

    This is amazing, and I've been wearing my hair naturally curly for a while now. :) And my hair is similar to yours, no ringlets or anything

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  60. I have the exact same hair! If I brush it out when its wet then my hair dries puffy and course. So to manage the curls I take a tiny bit of the Pantene Curly Hair Mouse and scrunch it into wet-not damp hair. After this step I rinse my hands under water and then scrunch over the curls to get rid of any extra product. If your hair feels very wet still then you can scrunch using a towel to get rid of extra moisture. Hope this helped! :)
    Hannah

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  61. The curse of the curly hair! I'm reading all these comments to try and help myself too! :L

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  62. Organix Curl Perfection Curl Cream! It's really moisturizing and NOT CRUNCHY. I hate crunchy. I have a tutorial on how I use it on my youtube channel, youtube.com/beautifullybookish

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  63. Enjoy makes a really, really nice curl shaping creme (it comes in a white bottle w/ orange writing). I would shower at night and throw my hair up in a ballerina bun on top of my head and in the morning I would take it out and let it air dry for about 15 minutes and then in scrunching fashion use the Enjoy Curl Shaping Creme. It never left my hair crunchy or any. It just gave my curls really soft definition. I stopped using it though because they reformulated their packaging and it was a pain in the butt to squeeze out of the new tubes. I have yet to find anything that worked w/ my curly hair better than that. When I was using that, I had long (about chest length), thick, wavy to curly hair. Using that creme really just have my curls the best definition and made them look like there wasn't anything to them. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=205929289422662&set=a.205929269422664.66481.137658402916418&type=3&theater (this is just a facebook picture that I could find of my curly hair. I for some reason don't have a lot of pics of when I was using that product)

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  64. I HAVE THE EXACT SAME HAIR!! I wear it naturally every single day... Here's what I do:

    1. Wash with s factor smoothing shampoo & conditioner in the morning
    2. Make a mixture of leave in conditioner and a light hold gel and apply it to my hair (the leave in conditioner mixing with the gel makes sure my curls aren't cruchy or weird)
    3. Scrunch curls up
    4. DO NOT TOUCH HAIR UNTIL IT IS DRY... this might take a while but it's worth it :-)

    Then to make my curls last I sleep on my back with my hair laying up on top of my pillow/head.

    Hope this helps! Everyone's hair is unique and crazy in it's own way.. Keep experiementing till you find something that works!! You'll LOVE your natural hair once you find a way to make it work for you <3

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  65. Ohmigod Elle.. You and me have literally the same issue. I had mostly straight silk hair as a kid, and then suddenly when I was like 11 it started to become dryer and curlier. I'm sorta kinda dealing with the same problem you are now - my hair underneath is gorgeous curls, but than my shorter layers are straighter/weirdly crimped. I asked my hairdresser about this, and she asked me if I straightened my hair. I do, and she replied that for some hair tips (usually coarser ones), straightening then hair will cause friction, causing it to wave and curl up (much like how you curl ribbon with scissors).

    I've found the best way is to detangle it once when you get out of the shower, when it's 25% dry apply a cream curl boosting product (Not your Mother's has one in a purple bottle), or a sea salt spray (again, mine's by Not your Mother's), scrunch it, and let it air dry to about 60%.

    Here you have a couple options (you can apply any more products if you want to, my hair soaks about anything and doesn't have an issue, so what I apply differs from day to day),

    No Heat:

    1) if you like the way your curls are shaped/for tighter curls, scrunch it up on to the top of your head and secure with some clips which will give your hair volume. (elastics will leave dents) and go to sleep.

    2) if your curls are starting to look weird, then twist it into a bun on the top of your head (for tighter curls I'll do two buns sometimes). You can secure it with an elastic - it doesn't leave that much of a dent, but if you can find bun clips from target/walmart/walgreens, and use that it will work a lot better. The second method will create looser but more uniformed waves. Another option, that my friend swears by, but I just can't figure how to do is a sock bun, so you could try that. The second method will create looser but more uniformed waves.

    Heat

    Diffuser: Not my favorite thing, because I find it makes my hair dry, and more tangly, but it definitely brings out the curls. I would do this when you hair is 60% dry, and then follow with step number one from above.

    Curling Wand: I know what you're thinking, natural!! but this is what i use if most of my hair looks great and there are some kinky pieces that are straight/crimped, of if my bangs aren't laying right.

    Now, here is the product part that I find makes the most difference. In the morning, I take my hair down, and in my palm I'll mix either morrocan argon oil or chi silk infusion, with my hairspray. Using that little concotion, I'll scrunch my hair -- do not apply it by running your fingers through your hair, this will pull out curls, but after you apply it and the hairspray sets, you can run your fingers through it some more. You can scrunch with a curl boosting cream/spray as well, but again - know your hair! Mine soaks up pretty much all the product I want to apply, so it's not a problem but if your hair is feeling weighed down, don't use it.

    hope that helps!!
    Mia

    sprinkleofsequins.blogspot.com

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  66. I have curly hair, too, and mine always does the weird flat crown thing when I air dry it on top of my head. Put some leave in conditioner in it and let it air dry while it's down and not tied up on top of your head. It should dry normally and with volume.

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  67. Hi Elle,

    My hair looks pretty much exactly the same as yours when I let it air dry without any product. I tend to leave it natural most of the time because I don't mind it being a bit messy, and I have worked out a way to get it looking reasonable most of the time (sometimes it can be a bit unpredictable...I'll do exactly the same thing and one day I will have these gorgeous curls, and another day it will be crazy)

    Anyway, here's what I do:

    1) Wash hair
    2) Condition (and while the conditioner is in I comb through my hair with my fingers and get out the majority of the knots)
    3) Once I get out of the shower, I very gently dry my hair with a towel (just very gently dabbing it - no piling my air on top of my head or anything like that)
    4) I then get a very wide toothed comb and actually put some of the product that I'm using onto the comb (Moroccan oil works well, but so does the Herbal Essences tousle me softly mousse)
    5) I then gently comb through my hair from the ends up (I tip my head upside down to avoid flattening my hair and to give it a bit of volume)
    6) Then I just let it air dry

    This works pretty well for me most of the time!
    Maybe it will work for you? Everyone's hair is different but I guess it's worth giving all these different methods a try! (I'm definitely going to be trying some of the different tips!)
    Hmmm... I think I might do a blog post about this now actually... thanks for the inspiration! haha :)


    Lauren
    xxx


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  68. Hi Elle,

    My hair looks pretty much exactly the same as yours when I let it air dry without any product. I tend to leave it natural most of the time because I don't mind it being a bit messy, and I have worked out a way to get it looking reasonable most of the time (sometimes it can be a bit unpredictable...I'll do exactly the same thing and one day I will have these gorgeous curls, and another day it will be crazy)

    Anyway, here's what I do:

    1) Wash hair
    2) Condition (and while the conditioner is in I comb through my hair with my fingers and get out the majority of the knots)
    3) Once I get out of the shower, I very gently dry my hair with a towel (just very gently dabbing it - no piling my air on top of my head or anything like that)
    4) I then get a very wide toothed comb and actually put some of the product that I'm using onto the comb (Moroccan oil works well, but so does the Herbal Essences tousle me softly mousse)
    5) I then gently comb through my hair from the ends up (I tip my head upside down to avoid flattening my hair and to give it a bit of volume)
    6) Then I just let it air dry

    This works pretty well for me most of the time!
    Maybe it will work for you? Everyone's hair is different but I guess it's worth giving all these different methods a try! (I'm definitely going to be trying some of the different tips!)
    Hmmm... I think I might do a blog post about this now actually... thanks for the inspiration! haha :)


    Lauren
    xxx


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  69. Hey Elle!
    I think I have the answer to your problem! Your hair has some beautiful natural curl but I know the pain with the curls are the crown of your head being crimped and not really cute.
    What I have found to fix that is a low pony tail. When your hair is damp basically brush your hair into a neat low pony tail (make sure to include your part). I've found that when my hair dries in a low pony tail I take it out and there are pretty curls that don't have all the kink at the top.
    Also you can still use some product in your hair such as some oils or a curl defining cream always does magic. I have found that Herbal Essences makes some great mousses for curly hair that seem to tame curls (some even give you a beachy wave) and make your hair smell great!
    Hope this helps!
    Michaela

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  70. This is such a fun post! LOVE your baby pic! :) http://dreamliveandrepeat.blogspot.com/

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  71. Hi Elle!
    I love your hair, it's so neat to see it this way.
    I'm a curly hair girl too, so I'll weigh in a bit :)

    When I want to style my hair and have it still look naturally curly, there are two products that I've tried that are the only ones that make it look natural, don't weigh it down, and make it so that it isn't crunchy. The first one is the bumble and bumble curl defining creme, and the other is Catwalk's "Curl's Rock!" curl amplifier. (Both have similar results, but the Catwalk one leaves a slightly tackier finish, so usually I go for B&B- but both are great and a little goes a long way).
    I put either one of these in after putting in an anti-frizz serum when my hair is still damp. From there you can just scrunch it, twist it, do whatever, and the curls tend to take on a nice shape. If they still don't seem as defined as you would like, you can always use a diffuser (this makes them super curly!)
    Another trick I use (because my hair goes flat at the crown or back, too) is to slightly tease the top. If this takes out the curl completely, I use a curling wand to redefine them. This helps too on any trouble spots- using a wand on curls that tend to still fall flat, or stay slightly frizzy. The wand smooths everything out, but still blends in with your natural curls.
    I think dealing with curly hair has a lot to do with trying out a lot of different products to see which ones work best for you, and making sure the curls stay moisturized. It's a whole new world, so I hope you find something that ends up working!

    Love your new vlog, and of course your videos!
    Hopefully you see this, or it helps! :)
    Liz.

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  72. This story of your hair/pictures of you as a baby made me laugh! Other than the poor kitty part of course. That is so sad, I had a similar thing happen to me with my cat, except instead of a coyote, it was a car. I haven't been able to bring myself to get another cat yet, though I'm starting to come around.

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  73. Girl! Work them curls! Flaunt what your momma gave you!
    But seriously, I have crazy curly hair and there are a few products I don't know how I lived my life without them.

    1. mirco-fiber towel, regular cotton towels tend to break the hair because of the loop stands that tangle in curly hair

    2. A diffuser, sometime you just have it use a hair dyer

    3. (Repair)ology Infusium 23, Step 3. This is a very light leave in conditioner to leave curly silky and frizz
    free

    I hope you keep rocking those curls and keep us posted!
    B.K.

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  74. My hair is the same way! I have found what seems to be a miracle pairing in the Citre Shine anti frizz serum and a gel. I comb a bit of serum through my wet hair before using a gel and it prevents the gel from drying crunchy and also gives me serious frizz protection throughout the day! I don't know what it is about this combination that makes the gel behave so much better, but I've been using it for years and many people think its just my natural hair. I love being able to wear my hair basically naturally, but with a few products that ensure my hair will behave itself throughout the day. I think the Citre Shine actually helps the curls look nicer too...strange but potentially life changing product combo! I find that LA Looks and La Bella gel work particularly well with the Citre Shine, but any gel will do. Hope this helps!

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  75. My go to hair product for my curly hair is Herbal Essences Tousle Me Softly Spray Gel. Unlike normal gel, it does not weigh down hair or make it crunchy at all, I usually don't even feel like I've put any product on my hair after using it.

    I've always used the wet messy bun sprayed with the spray gel as my go to natural hair look, but I've always had the back of the hair problem. Recently though I found out that putting my hair in a french bun eliminates that (I spray this with the spray gel as well). It seems so simple but even having my hair like that for an hour makes a huge difference in the craziness of the curls.

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  76. Just use shampoo and a conditioner. After u get out of the shower u should only put some oil in your hair.
    The next day you should put oil in it too. Just a bit.

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  77. I am the proud owner of crazy hair and this is all too familiar! Lucky you that you can sleep with wet hair and it looks so nice in the morning. I have curly all over but at the top in the front - wonderful, kinda frizzy look that straightens and frizzes overnight. My holy grail has been Ouidad Botanical Boost. They have other products but some make my hair crunchy. You should watch her technique videos as these are a life saver. I use L'Oreal EverPure Sulfate-Free Color Care. Highly underrated. I usually have tons of tangles but not with this stuff. After washing/conditioning, I spray 12 - 15 sprays in sections of the Botanical Boost. Hair stays soft and touchable. It's amazing. Then I dry with a diffuser on medium. But to air dry, I use clips to hold up the roots to avoid that flat feeling at the crown. There is a Ouidad video on this too. Ouidad is made specifically and only for curly hair girls. You might want to give it a look.

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  78. Elle- I've had a similar hair story (minus the awkard frizzy puffy part). My hair from childhood went from beautiful platinum blonde (which gradually darken through all shades of blonde to a dark blonde now) and it was stick straight. Then one day it went wavy/curly with some straight pieces. The ONE product that I have discovered thar tames my hair is Wen cleansing conditioner. I use all tue products and my hair has never been healthier. I have gone on a no-dye hair for the past year, but when I was dying my hair Wen did make it better. I also never use heat aanymore. I let my hair air dry naturally and let it do what it wants. I hope that helps.

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  79. I have naturally curly hair (and most of the time frizz along with the curls)I got tired of trying to straighten and curl it all the time so I bought the Curl Reformer from Kenra and it works miracles. It keeps my hair from frizzing and keeps the curls in control without the crunchy feeling.
    Yasmine xx

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  80. So I don't have curly hair, I just have Asian hair with a wave but that's beside the point. I just have a suggestion, it's a little out of the box but maybe it might work. Have you tried those twist out things. I know that they are targeted for African American textured hair, but maybe they will help to define your curls. I've watched a few yt videos because I secretly want big curly hair and it seems like it it might work for you.if you yt search twist out tutorials there should be a ton of them. Just a thought! :)

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  81. So I don't have curly hair, I just have Asian hair with a wave but that's beside the point. I just have a suggestion, it's a little out of the box but maybe it might work. Have you tried those twist out things. I know that they are targeted for African American textured hair, but maybe they will help to define your curls. I've watched a few yt videos because I secretly want big curly hair and it seems like it it might work for you.if you yt search twist out tutorials there should be a ton of them. Just a thought! :)

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  82. I LOVEEEEE Aquage curl defining creme! I've left the link below. It is amazing! Doesn't weight down your hair and makes it soft and manageable! Plus you don't get crispy/crunchy hair! xoxox- Hilary

    http://aquage.com/AQUAGEproducts/Styling/CurlDefiningCreme.aspx

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  83. My hair is exactly like yours. My tips 1) Don't fall asleep with your hair wet. I know that this is the same thing that everyone says but trust me. Of you fall asleep with it wet I means that one side will be flat and tangled. 2) While your hair is wet do not put it up because the force of your hair being back will cause the sides to be straight 3) as soon as you get out of the shower after washing your hair put in a leave in conditioner and scrunch it and then just let it air dry. I hope these will help! -Filthyteenageminds

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  84. I just got the DevaCurl styling system from Ulta and it's been really incredible. It's a no sulfate shampoo and conditioner so you just wash and condition as normal. Then when you turn the water off in the shower you immediately put your hair upside down and start scrunching it to get the water out. I do it really slowly to prevent frizzing. Once you get a fair amount of water out take the the gel and put a quarter sized amount in your palms and do the same thing again, scrunch it upside down. It takes a good amount of gel to work so do this four or so times. Then take the microfiber cloth and again scrunch your hair slowly upside down. Once you've soaked up more of the remaining water you can either do one last thing of gel or I use a curl activator spray just to shake things up and scrunch right side up one last time. Then let your hair airdry. Do not touch it again until it's fully dry. Once it's fully dry scrunch one last time and that will release the gel and eliminate any potential crunchiness. It sounds like a lot but it's sooooo effective for curly hair. I don't know if its the DevaCurl products or the method, but my curls have never looked so incredible.

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  85. OK, first my hair story: Until I was in 6th grade, I had silky straight-with-a-few-waves hair. Then in 7th grade, more waves started appearing, and now, I'm in 11th, and BAM curls. I've found that air-drying works best for me while applying a hair oil immediately after the shower.

    Some inexpensive ones I like are the Organix Coconut oil and Organix Moroccan-Argan oil spray. However, the bumble & bumble hair products are amazing. I have wavy-curly hair, similar to yours, and my friend who has even curlier hair, SWEARS by Bumble curling products. I tried them out when I went to the beach with her and fell in love. The Curl Concious line is great, as well as the Creme de Coco (shampoos & conditioners). Some of our favorite products are the Curl concious styling creme and reactivating mist. Also try It's a 10 products, they're great! All those are best used directly out of the shower. As for the flat crown hairs, that's hard to prevent if your'e sleeping on them, but if you clip them up before you go to bed in spiral-shapes with bobby pins, you wake up the next morning and they're just as curly when you remove the pins.

    Hope I helped! Sorry this was lengthy and all over the place. Love your blogs, Elle!

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  87. I have crazy curly hair and I don't even try to tame it. When you get out of the shower, make sure to dry your hair with a T-Shirt, not a towel. It cuts the frizz down dramatically.

    Also, I like to do a hydrating deep condition once a week. If you really want it to look good though (I only do this if I know I'm going to have pictures taken or something as it can break your hair), after you've gotten most of the moisture out with the towel brush your hair out and then braid it in a side braid. Mine always looks great if I do that. The curls are more uniform and aren't crazy tangled!

    Hope this helps!

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  88. I don't know if my hair is exactly like yours, but I have a similar problem with my hair. If I let it air dry and don't brush it, I will get the prettiest curls, but I can't wear it like that because it will look tangled and frizzy in spots. When I brush it out, the curls go away and I look completely frizzy all over. So what I do is put it stuff to make it silky and get rid of the frizz and wear it straight. But I do like the way it looks curly, but I'm not sure how to make it look completely nice that way. I have tried curling products, but it makes my hair sticky and the curls don't look as nice as when I did nothing to them.

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  89. You should try the wen 6-13 mousse. My hair is completely opposite or yours (fine and straight as a board) but this product works beautifully when I curl my hair. I've seen it work for girls with crazy natural curls like you.
    Good luck!
    Laura

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  90. When I step out of the shower I go through it with a wide-tooth comb and let it air dry (sometimes I'll spray my roots and tips with Aveda's Brilliant spray, but I don't think it does much). After it's fully dry, I brush down the first third of my head, from my part to just above my ear. This way, my roots are smooth and frizz-free, but the natural curls still keep! Hope this helped :)

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  91. When I step out of the shower I go through it with a wide-tooth comb and let it air dry (sometimes I'll spray my roots and tips with Aveda's Brilliant spray, but I don't think it does much). After it's fully dry, I brush down the first third of my head, from my part to just above my ear. This way, my roots are smooth and frizz-free, but the natural curls still keep! Hope this helped :)

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  92. That is so precious that you had a cat that looked like Pinecone when you were little, too! I LOVE your hair curly, and I hope you'll find a way to style it that you like because it's so beautiful! I've always wanted curly hair. <3

    - TwinkleTealight

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  93. I have struggled with my curly hair for years. I hate the crunchy wieghed down feeling of product in my hair, but I live in Florida and the humidity is killer. Then I did something I never thought I would do; I bought a curling wand.
    When my hair was long, I would go to hed with wet hair and wake up looking much like your curly bed head. I then took my curling wand and "fixed" the top pieces and the pieces that just didn't fall right. That works really well on longer hair.
    Since it is short now, if I sleep with it wet it literally will stand up with so many curls. Now I air dry it and when it is 90 percent dry, I dip my finger tips in a very small amount of cocnut oil warm it up in my hands and finger it through starting at the ends. After it is totally dry, I touch up the more unruly parts with more coconut oil or again with the curling wand if I have time. This takes patientce because it takes so long for my hair to dry but it works for me. The cocnut oil does not make mt hair feel heavy orlook oily at all.

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  94. I have very thick, frizzy, and curly hair. I usually just spray some texturizing spray on towel dried hair and scrunch it. Then I use a scrunching gel to keep it in place and scrunch it some more! the gel I use is Herbal Essences scrunching gel. It doesn't leave it crunchy or anything. It's amazing! The sea salt spray I use is not your mothers beach texturizing spray. It's great because it reduces frizz a lot!

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  95. http://beautyeditor.ca/2013/07/12/after-8-years-i-finally-figured-out-how-to-style-my-curly-hair/

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  96. I have the same problem, thick long frizzy curly crazy hair! I used so many different products and I felt like they made my hair look too crunchy or frizzed it out or didn't last, or soaked my scalp in oil which was not a pleasing look to have. I like fekkai luscious curl cream, it feels crunchy at first when you scrunch it on wet hair but if you let it dry naturally with your hair it looks amazing. It keeps the frizz down and doesn't make my hair greasy either and it lasts all day (at least for me!) Good luck on trying to tame the curls!

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  97. Try a wave/beach spray. I have similar hair and this helps to restructure the curl/wave as well as giving it a summery-beachy look.

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  98. Hi Elle!
    I absolutely ADORE the Bumble and Bumble Curl Conscious line! I especially enjoy using the Curl Defining Creme. I like to brush it through my hair when it's damp to distribute the product and then diffuse upside down. The results are incredible! I definitely think its worth a try. :)

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  99. Can you please do a blog about fitness? How do you stay so slim?

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  100. I have the same hair type as you, I'm pretty sure! Mine used too be super damaged because I used to bleach it, and this routine has always worked well for me. I am in LOVE with the It's a 10 Miracle Leave-In. It's amazing for natural curly/wavy frizballs like us. Hahah. It smooths, defrizzes, ads shine, and so much more. HIGHLY recommended. I also use the Herbal Essences Tousle Me Softly curl defining mousse. I know what you're thinking...mousse=crunchy. But I just take a tiny bit and softly tousle this into my hair, and just LIGHTLY scrunch to add texture. When it dries, my curls are much more defined and just look natural and pretty and don't look like a bird tried to build a nest on my head. I promise the mousse does NOT make your hair look or feel scrunchy or crunchy! :))

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  101. I had the exact oposite happen to my hair! I was born with wild curly hair that my mom couldn't handle and then suddenly when I was 3 or 4 it went straight! my mom was thrilled because she could finally brush it. now I have super thick mildy wavy hair

    http://mercuteify.blogspot.com/

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  102. There are a lot of comments here so I'm not sure if you will see mine. However, you have absolutely beautiful curly hair, there are several things when taking care of curly hair. One thing I have found is to make sure most 75% of the water is out of it, and to scrunch it with your fingers or use a curling diffuser. It is an attachment you place on your hairdryer with spokes that the curls can curl around. Next, I used a product by Graham Webb (Graham Webb Making Waves Curl Defining Gel). Go easy on this as too much can make your hair crunchy. Then I would use an oil of some sort something I could spray to tame the frizz. Usually this worked well for me. Also please note that curly hair loves moisture, so make sure to use a heavy creamy curly conditioner.

    Hope this helps!

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  103. It's so funny that you posted this. I just did a long post on my blog (link here: http://gatorglamgirl.wordpress.com/2013/06/24/the-long-and-short-of-it/ ) about this very thing! I've fought my curls my entire life, and now I'm embracing them.

    Also: the Marc Anthony line of products for curls at Ulta is AMAZING. I used to have the same "crunchy" feeling you did...NOT with this stuff. Even if it dries a BIT "crunchy" at first, you can shake it out and it's PERFECT.

    As far as the flatness around the crown...your hair is so thick, it's likely the weight pulling down on the curls. Mine was the same (and my hair isn't thick at ALL) when it was longer.

    You have BEAUTIFUL curls...you should flaunt them! :)

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  104. Hey Elle, I feel your pain. My whole life I've had this hair and I can say sadly that I have burnt my hair to a crisp many times ith my straightener. A few months ago I bought a product that was meant to control the frizz that is brought on by humidity but I found that it tamed my natural curls. It enhanced them and made them public friendly as I like to call it. It's a Marc Anthony product called bye.bye frizz: Keratin Smoothing Sulfate Free Blow Dry Cream. It leaves your hair soft and does not make it feel heavy. I wish I had found this before I chopped off my medium length hair into a high low style (which was mistake because now it's puffy all the time -_-) Hope you try this out and find it to your liking!

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  105. Hey Elle. Yeah, I totally understand what it's like to have really wavy/curly unruly hair. Normally when I get out of the shower I use some Argan oil, Spray gel, and some smoothing serum and if I shower at night, I will just put it in a braid which does help a BUNCH with keeping the curls a little less crazy and more defined. If I shower in the morning I do the same thing but I use a diffuser to blow dry. The trick is for me to NEVER use gel or hairspray, because it always makes my hair super crunchy. Hope this helps.

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  106. Hey Elle. Yeah, I totally understand what it's like to have really wavy/curly unruly hair. Normally when I get out of the shower I use some Argan oil, Spray gel, and some smoothing serum and if I shower at night, I will just put it in a braid which does help a BUNCH with keeping the curls a little less crazy and more defined. If I shower in the morning I do the same thing but I use a diffuser to blow dry. The trick is for me to NEVER use gel or hairspray, because it always makes my hair super crunchy. Hope this helps.

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  107. Curly hair is sooo difficult! I've struggled for years...finally at 25 i have realized that curly always looks best on day 1! After showering I lightly towel dry it, and then I use Josie Maran Argan Oil (2-3 pumps on both sides..hair is never greasy from it). I've tried a lot of products..and i hate sticky, crunchy hair. I only ever like using leave in conditioner..in cream from or spray (doesn't matter). Right now I'm trying Carol's Daughter Tui Leave In Conditioner (spray). It works well to leave your hair soft and curly without weighing it down. I then comb it with a wide tooth comb and either use my fingers to twirl it or i'll do a low pony tail for 10 minutes and then take it out and scrunch it up a little. By doing this it keeps it more wavy than curly. But if your curls aren't too tight you can really mold your hair the way you want it to be while it's wet..then you hope for the best when it dries! Best of luck..let us know what you try!!

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  108. the difuser will become your new best friend... it works wonders!!

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  109. I also have curly hair and it looks best natural. I always shower with shampoo and conditioner. Then I comb through it and use some Argan Oil to ends and let it air dry with a towel about half an hour. Then I use a very fine comb and comb trough my upper hair and do a very tight and low ponytail and let it completly dry. Then I remove the hair tie and shake my head a little bit. These natural curls work best for me, because my upper hair is straight and the rest has nice and natural curls. On the first day the curls look perfect, on the second day, I comb trough my hair and use a leav-in spray, so my natural curls appear (mine do with wetness!).

    Sorry for the mistakes, I'm from Germany. :)

    Let us know, what you're doing and lots of love from Germany! ♥

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  110. I found the book 'Curly Girl' really helpful for maintaining my curls! I stopped using heat and started using alcohol-free products. There is a transition phase where your hair is going to look poopy, but it's totally worth it! Just put it up in a bun during that time!

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  111. I think your hair looks pretty cool by itself, but I can see it's quite a work!

    http://tanjamortensen.com/

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  112. First off, I COMPLETELY understand how you feel! I have really curly hair, and I've learned I can't sleep on it when it's wet, as the curls will come out similar to yours; sort of wild and not uniform. I solved this problem by making sure to wash my hair in the morning so it can air dry. However, I read one of your earlier comments that said your hair tends to lose its curl by letting it air dry. I would recommend trying to wash your hair in the morning, put a product in, (I have one I LOVE, I'll mention in a moment) and then scrunch & blow dry with a diffuser. As soon as I get out of the shower, while my hair is still pretty wet, I use one pump of the Michael O'Rourke Fix It Up Leave-In Treatment. It adds nice volume, helps with frizz, and helps my curls come out looking pretty and soft! It never makes my hair crunchy! (Oh and it also helps repair heat damaged hair!)

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  113. First off, I COMPLETELY understand how you feel! I have really curly hair, and I've learned I can't sleep on it when it's wet, as the curls will come out similar to yours; sort of wild and not uniform. I solved this problem by making sure to wash my hair in the morning so it can air dry. However, I read one of your earlier comments that said your hair tends to lose its curl by letting it air dry. I would recommend trying to wash your hair in the morning, put a product in, (I have one I LOVE, I'll mention in a moment) and then scrunch & blow dry with a diffuser. As soon as I get out of the shower, while my hair is still pretty wet, I use one pump of the Michael O'Rourke Fix It Up Leave-In Treatment. It adds nice volume, helps with frizz, and helps my curls come out looking pretty and soft! It never makes my hair crunchy! (Oh and it also helps repair heat damaged hair!)

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  114. You need to read the curly girl manifesto, A/K/A Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massey.

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  115. Loving the first picture! So adorable. I hope you find a way to make your natural curls look the way you want so you can show it to us soon! (:

    xo
    Liina

    http://missliina.com

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  116. Hey Elle so I have VERY curly hair.. What works for me is to wash it during the day.! Curly hair does not like it when you sleep on it wet... So you wash it during the day and let it air dry... What I use for my hair is the Catwalk's "Curl's Rock!" curl amplifier... You put like a little olive sized amount on your hand and put it in your hair, then you brush it normally then you put a bit more on your hand and put it only on the ends of your hair and kind of scrunch it up a bit... It wont look bad or look like you´ve done that... The reason why is because when you scrunch it, it activates your curls and makes them even more curly and pretty... Hope this helps..
    P.S. I love your videos and am loving this new blog...
    Warm wishes Stefane :)

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  117. Hey Elle, i have quite curly hair also (probably more than you) and i have also tried everything... The product i swear by is Moroccan Oil Intensive Curling Cream! This product is a dream! It leaves my hair very soft and curly without weighing it down and really holds the curls. I used to straighten my hair all the time because i never liked the look of it with mousse but now (thanks to this product) i leave it curly all the time and get sooo many compliments! The trick is finding the right quantity that works for you hair and then using a diffuser to dry it. It is the most amazing product and smells great! I hope you get a chance to try. Ps love your blog! you and your sister are so inspiring <3

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  118. I'm still trying to figure out how to manage my curly hair, it's really tight curls on the top(like where my fringe used to be) and then it goes kinda wavy/straight at the bottom. It's kinda a hassle getting it cut, because sometimes it ends up looking like they botched my hair. But it's only because the top curls dry so short XD haha. I'm thinking about buying a diffuser because I have heard that it helps so much. But hopefully we can both figure out our hair! Lol

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  120. Our hair is really similar!! I use a leave in conditioner while it is wet (it keeps them glossy. sometimes, I put it in after I am done to to keep them curls moisturized and defined) and let it air dry. When I am ready to style, I curl any pieces that are crushed or fallen and spray them. If you lightly mist them and play with them (pulling on them, shaking them out, whatever you need to do to get them to blend in) the blend in and you can't even tell!! Plus, if you don't have many crushed curls, its really fast and pretty!! I also like to braid back the front piece or bangs if you have them because it looks cuter. I personally use a one to half inch curling wand, but use whatever makes your hair look the most natural!!

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  121. I don't have curly hair but I have a friend that does and she told me once that she just brushes her hair in the shower, so that the curls look nice.

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  122. My roommate in college had super curly hair. She had a wide tooth comb she took with her in the shower to brush out her hair in between shampooing and conditioning. She would brush it out once she got out too. Then she'd put gel in it and sleep on it for the night. When she woke up, she'd add a little gel if needed (but usually not), straighten her bangs and be good to go! http://dreamliveandrepeat.blogspot.com/

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  123. hi im sorry about mr furball that is a terrible thing to witness.my heart goes out to you. my brother and my dad before he passed away are and were veternarians and i have worked with animals forever. They are a joy and get you threw rough times .

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  124. Hi Elle,

    This website helped a lot http://livecurlylivefree.com/.

    I use Burt's Bee's Shampoo and Conditioner (to reduce the drying that you get with silicone & sulphate products), and I only shampoo the greasy parts most days, with a good all-over shampoo every three or so days.

    When I get out of the shower (after I've combed it with the condition in) I comb it again, put in a gel and twist it with my fingers, letting it mostly air dry.

    Hope this helps :)

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  125. I have 'Botocelli curls' as they're called online, and this is what I do:
    1. Shampoo my hair with a frizz-fighting shampoo.
    2. Put curl-defining conditioner (and on occasion a deep hair mask) through my hair. I'll leave it in for a few minutes and then rinse out.
    *come out of the shower*
    3. Brush through my hair with a Tangle Teaser hair brush. I don't know if you can get them in the US, but you may be able to get them off Amazon. They're amazing!
    4. Scrunch excess water out of my hair with an old cotton shirt.
    5. Scrunch leave-in conditioner through my hair.
    6. Let it air-dry or blow dry with a diffuser.
    7. Put it in a pineapple for bed if washing my hair at night.
    *sleep*
    (The following steps are for if I haven't washed my hair in the morning)
    8. Spray with a mixture of conditioner and water to rehydrate.
    9. Use any random frizz-fighting product (like serum) to smooth away the frizzies at the crown of my head.
    All my products, pretty much, are Umberto Giannini. It's a UK brand but if you can get your hands on their stuff, do. It's amazing, seriously.
    Good luck!

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  126. Well, I have a problem with my curls being uneven, so it's curly underneath and wavy on top, so I usually just braid it when it's wet. Like, a frenchbraid on the back only. It works, the natural curls keeps it in place and it looks natural.

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  127. Hi Elle,
    First off I know that you use the TIGI S Factor Smoothing Shampoo and Conditioner duo and that you love them, and if you want to re-purchase them I know that on feel unique's website you can get the salon size duo for around $50! Which is really good considering that at Ulta the 8.5 oz sizes are 30 each :o
    And What I use to help control my curls is more of out of the shower products, I use a leave in conditioner and apply it by smoothing it all in my hair then scrunching it a bit afterwards, then a tiny bit of oil, Like the NuMe repair or hydro punch oil :), and then once it's dry to control frizz and keep it more sleek I apply a bit more of the oil to my hair but not too much so it won't look greasy! And in my purse I keep one of the little 1oz sizes of the macadamia natural oil healing oil so I can re touch my hair if it starts to frizz or become a little bit unmanagable :) Hope this helps! <3

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  128. i use a sea salt spray and just scrunch my hair when its wet and my curls come out like i just used a curling iron! i used to use a hair mousse but the sea salt spray is more of a natural look for me

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  129. I use the Aveda Be Curly Curl Enhancer! Then I just put Moroccan Argan Oil on the ends of my hair. :) I also use the Aveda Brilliant leave in treatment but the Be Curly keeps the frizz away and enhanced! If I want my hair more curly I will actually scrunch from bottom to top (not with gel just the scrunching motion) but if I'm going for a more wavy look I just tossle it back and forth. :)

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  130. The way i do my hair is i shower at night and use an ati frizz shampoo and conditioner, and a mask of the same belgian drugstore brand ( it works quite nice :-) ) and i comb it with a wide tooth comb and dry it with a towel and put it in a topknot. That way when i sleep i dont get that flat part on the crown. This is the lazy girl method i did when i went to school haha but i gt a lot of compliments. On good days it looks like you put real effirt in it ahaha

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  131. Elle! You should check out naturallycurly.com. It's a great website and has LOADS of information about styling and maintaining curly hair.
    Sometimes what I do if I will run a straightener only halfway down the strands of my hair to get rid of that "bed head" look at the crown, but still keep pretty loose curls on the bottom. :) I use this technique quite often.

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  132. I wish I could answer you but I've unfortunately got the same exact problem! From birth we have almost the exact same hair history (and I was a red head when I was born too - now blonde). I'm so sorry to hear about your cat, I can't even imagine how traumatizing that must have been for you.

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  133. I have exactly the same hair as you! What I do is I just dry the roots using a hairdryer and leave the rest as it is, this means that I get all the natural curl for my whole head, but my roots still look nice :)

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  134. This same thing pretty much happened to me, but when I was in 6th grade. What started out as a giant cowlick in my 6th grade bangs ended up being a nightmare when all my hair turned curly. I had no clue what to do with it for years, I've tried tons and tons of products just to be disappointed with the results. I finally found the perfect solution for my hair. I take a shower in the morning, while still in the shower comb your hair with a wide tooth comb clearly after you have washed and conditioned it. After you have combed it don't get your hair wet again. Once out of the shower I towel dry my hair while scrunching it. I wrap my hair up in my towel only leaving it up until I get to my room. Then I use a sea salt spray for your hair. I've used different kinds like Not Your Mothers as well as Lush's new one. I spray this in my hair and scrunch at the same time. Then I let the rest air dry while I put my make up on and get dressed. This works for me, it doesn't leave my hair crunchy or wet looking. I've had more compliments using this technique than ever before! Hope this helps :)

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  135. The trick to not having that "crunchy, scrunched" curly look is don't scrunch it! Don't put any kind of curling gel in your hair whatsoever. Naturally curly haired girls often have super dry frizzy hair because it takes a lot more moisture to have curly hair. So, what I do is: 1.) brush my hair with a wide tooth comb while in the shower, 2.) make sure to use an amazing conditioner (i prefer my macadamia oil deep conditioner) 3.) once out of the shower, gently squeeze my hair in a towel to get the water out. 4.) put in a leave-in conditioner or oil that is very lightweight (I use Kenra Platinum Blow Dry Spray because I love the way it feels like a gel/cream - very lightweight and moisturizing). 5.) take my fingers and go underneath the roots of my hair and gently give it a few shakes so the roots don't stick to my head creating kinks. 6.) flip my hair over and apply one squirt of Dove Style+Care Nourishing Curls Hair Mouse! This stuff is awesome, because it's so moisturizing, but it's not the type of mousse that feels crunchy or hard once my hair dries. Honestly it feels great! I apply the mousse when my hair is flipped upside down, focusing on the ends and underneath of my hair, I stay AWAY from the roots. 7.) Once I've applied the mousse, it goes one of two ways, use a defuser with cool heat and hold my hair in a bunch while i blow dry, or let it air dry either down, or in a low messy bun. I swear by my method. My hair comes out perfect, curly and natural every time!

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  136. So I have extremely curly hair, like so curly it's impossible to straiten and I find the best way to manage curls are to use creams and condionters that way your hair doesn't get too dry and notty and all blehh. Also basically all DevaCurl products are amazing, and they have them made for specific curl types which is really nice:)
    http://spencrescurls.blogspot.com/

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  137. i have this weird curly/frizzy/wavy hair situation what i do is i wash and condition it at night. i comb/brush my hair out and apply some type of smoothing serum/ defrizzing stuff and then leave it down and go to bed when i wake in the morning its all beachy wave looking and i just use some spray gel to tame the top frizzies and on the waves to help them keep some it only looks good for about a day and a half but i live in florida by the beach and the humidity is horrible :)

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  138. I have hair that is very similar to yours I found that my curls come out best when I have a lot of feathered layers all over my hair starting at about the jawline and have some shorter layers to frame my face. I have found that using styling creams work the best. The one I'm using now is L'oreal EverStyle Texture Series Tousle Cream. I use about a nickle size amount and on wet hair add it about mid strand towards the ends then add the rest to the top and roots (my hair is about two inches shorter than yours) and work it into my hair then diffuse it upside down until slightly damp then let it air dry the rest.
    I hope this helps on you quest to wearing your hair curly. Me and my hair and so happy that we have embraced our curl and I hope that you get to enjoy yours as well.

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  139. Your hair is beautiful!!!!Hi Elle the BEST product EVER is OUIDAD!!!!!! It gives your had a scrunched hard feeling at first but then if you use their pomade it gives it a soft feeling. Ouidad is the best product for any type of curly hair. If you would like god your hair to have volume you can use Playful Curls also know as a volumizing Foam. There is also a "heat and humidity gel" and that is when I use well I mainly use for church and party I use the foam. But you put the product in your hair and then you put the pomade in your hair feels amazing. I hope YOU USE the AMAZING PRODUCT so that YOU can LOVE it ALSO. PS. When ever you could vote I voted for you and Blaie and I got my sister to vote for you as well.

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  140. I have pretty much identical hair to yours Elle, and here's my advice. In the morning when your hair is wet apply just a dab of coconut oil (you can get this at the grocery store) to your ends. this really helps with frizz. I then usually apply just a tad bit of mousse (Herbal escenses tousle me softly) and scruntch it up in my hair. I pin a few of the strands back some times just to give it more of a polished look, but I don't get crunchy hair from this. The key is to not use too much products, that can make your hair even frizzier! That's what I've learned. Hope this helps & I hope you try it! especially the coconut oil, its seriously the best thing ever and may sound a little weird at first, but I promise you it works!

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  141. I hear that if you put those hair rollers in your hair while wet and leave it for a few hours/until hair is dry/if you can sleep with them, that will help the hair enhance natural curlyness without damaging it by heat.

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  142. I have the same problem with my curls but as I've grown up I've kind of learned to love them. I use Herbal Essences Beautiful Ends leave in cream (I have no clue what it's called in the US.. it's the raspberry and silk extract one in the red bottle) in my damp hair which defines the curls much better and tames my crazy frizz!

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  143. I have the same type of hair! I usually wear in in a loose, high pony tail over night. Then in the morning I get a 1/4 dime of coconut oil, rub it in my hands, and kind of scrunch up my hair. Like, I violently apply it. :( This kind of separates the curls a bit so it looks more natural and the coconut oil gets rid of frizz! Tip: I make sure to wash my hands since I run my hands through the roots of my air a lot and I dont want oily hair by the end of the day! Good luck!

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  144. I'm a cosmetologist, get Sebastion Whipped Cream (it's a mouse you can find it at Ulta) and put that in your hair and use a blow dryer with a diffuser attachment after its dry use Redkin Diamond oil (just a little) mid shaft to ends.

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  145. I'm a cosmetologist, get Sebastion Whipped Cream (it's a mouse you can find it at Ulta) and put that in your hair and use a blow dryer with a diffuser attachment after its dry use Redkin Diamond oil (just a little) mid shaft to ends.

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  146. Oh my gosh Elle, your hair is gorgeous!
    You are definitely our beauty and fashion inspiration! <3

    dailydoseofglitter22.blogspot.com

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  147. Try the Queen Helene Royal Curl shampoo and conditioner. You can find it a whole foods in the shampoo section, and although i don't have curly hair, i have wavy hair and it maintains the texture of the wave but it feels very smooth and managable ^.^

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  148. I have very curly hair that is frizzy! Ive tried so many products, but I found that "Miss Jessies" Curl cremes and products work AMAZINGLY. I got a sample in my birchbox and it is amazing! Totally recommend

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  149. try the deva curl styling cream!! i have hair just like you. but my hair turned curly in middle school. i have struggled to find a good curly hair product that would make my hair look amazing and the deva curl styling cream is it! it works like a miracle. after you shower just scrunch it in and then let your hair air dry and you'll see just how great it will look! i promise:)

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  150. I made a video about how to style naturally curly hair, check it out here: http://lustforblush.wordpress.com/2013/04/03/how-to-style-naturally-curly-hair/

    The trick is just to leave it alone and to scrunch in some mousse. Promise it works!

    My hair was perfectly straight until I was 3, so weird how our hair chanegs. Both of my brothers had insane ringlets until three and now their hair is straight...bizzare.

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  151. Hi Elle,
    I have curly hair since forever. In fact I like curly hair when they are nice, non frizzy and tamed. Unfortunately nobody has this kind of hair naturally. So I did my research and found an article in Elle magazine about Daniel Hersheson from London. He's a really famous hairstylist and even did pricess Kates and rosy huntington whiteleys hair. He does something called brazilian blow dry or you could call it permanent blow dry too. When I was in London I did it at his hair salon in Harvey Nichols. What can I say. Its amazing. It is actually a treatment for your hair to get rid of the frizz and it also tames curls 30% so it's no a relaxer. It is good for your hair. My hair never looked better. The curls are soft and thamend and they it even got rid of all!! split ends. My hairs absolutely shiny and healthy and yes there's no more frizz at all! It last for up to 4 months. I hope this helps you as much as it helped me because now I don't have to put in any product in my hair and believe me they were extremely frizzy and really curly.

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  152. This is going to sound strange, and you're going to look a little strange, but youtube "hair plopping." It has completely changed my curly hair! And...there's such thing as "scrunching out the crunch" when you use hair products. If you take an old t-shirt and scrunch your hair, it takes out the crunch!! I'm completely serious...I doubted it, but I tried it and I'm in love!!!

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  153. TGI Catwalk Curls Rock Curl Cream. LIFE saver for the madness that is my curly hair :)

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  154. my hair is exactly like that and for the past many months, ive been avoiding heat styling of any sort. when going out, i just shampoo (once using a minimal amount, that too, diluted) and then condition using john frieda's smooth start repairing conditioner. afterwards i wrap my hair in a smaller lightweight super soft towel (so it doesnt weigh my hair down) wrapped loosely but with my hair stacked on the top of my head. do not rub dry or anything, just wrap it until water stops dripping about 5 mins, next remove the towel and apply john frieda frizz ease serum (original formula) to your hair, about two squirts is more than enough. do not smooth it through your hair or run fingers throught it, just pat it on and scrunching it up a little, you dont want the strands to seperate. next just gently pile the hair on top of your head and secure with a big jaw clip so it stays in place without pulling your hair down, one thing i do is i flip my head over, very gently very loosely twist my hair (all of it together) and then roll it , loosely, into a bun on the top of my head and secure with a clip. the key is to keep it super loose or your hair will go flat at the roots. its okay if a few strands fall loose. do your makeup or watever for the next 15-20 minutes, and then when you are ready to go, release your hair and let it fall in position. do not comb through and watevrr u do , DO NOTA RUN your fingers throught it. to keep the top from going flat, make a light pouf (light, and by lifting a few strands from the top, gathering and then pushing a little forward to puff them up a bit) and secure into place. gather hair as much as u prefer it, either one wide section in the center or two sections on either side. and to secure, use bobby pins with a good grip
    let your hair dry naturally after wards, the hair dries naturally into pretty curly strands and the top dries into a slight puff which actually gives the effect of a little volume on top without having to tease it. later on at the end of the day, u can detangle using a soft wide tooth comb followed by brushing with a soft paddle brush and apply a texturizing anti frizz cream to your hair, avoiding the roots, before hitting the bed. the next morning you will wake with softer smoother waves. the key here is to pin up your hair into watever position you want it. remember, bobby pins are a curly girl's best friend, i use these curved bobby pins which i find give a better grip than regular bobby pins (image linked below) mine are a bit more curved though that i got from a street vendor here in pakistan and are locally made

    http://www.totalbeauty.com/reviews/product/6296872/scunci-comfort-curved-bobby-pins

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  155. I use the Aveda Be Curly Curling Creme after I get out of the shower - it works amazingly!

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  156. right when i get out of the shower i spray my hair with the "macadamia healing oil spray" (please excuse my spelling) then i use my "enjoy shaping lotion" and i crimp it in my hair(i hope i used the right word there,where u grab your hair and hold a section then let it go?). And i have crazy curly hair, i have ringlets curlier than shirley temple! The shaping lotion is made specifically for soft curly hair! :)

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  157. My hair is similar, except it has more wave less curl I normally let it air dry or go to bed with a wet head, sometimes I will pull it up, most of the time i wake up with it flat near the crown to, I normally take a pea size amount of biosilk in it that for me clams the frizzy part, as for the flat part i normally pull my hair half up or i take some dry sampoo and spray near the scalp and use it as a way to build volume and it normally works, your hair looks curly around the crown but just flat, add the dry sampoo and see if that adds volume

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  158. I have hair exactly like yours (but kind of more of a reddish blonde) and here's what I do: After getting out of the shower, i put in 'It's a 10 Miracle Styling Serum' and comb out with a wide tooth comb, then i put a pump or two of 'AG Hair Cosmetics Recoil' in my hands and rub them together to create a creamy texture and distribute evenly in my met hair. I then use a blowdryer with an attachment for curls and blow dry my hair for 10 mins and let the rest air dry. I am then left with beautiful, soft, defined, and non-crunchy curls!! When I go to bed i put all of my hair into a silk hair wrap and when I wake up, they're perfectly in tact and not knotty! I like them even better on the second day!!

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  159. I know that I'm super late on the bandwagon here, but, I have a super curly hair as well, and I find that using hair shampoos and conditioners formulated for smooth hair work amazingly on kind of calming the curls. Also, I tried Vidal Sassoon "Waves" shampoo and conditioner that made my hair curlier, but a heck of a lot less frizzy. It didn't dry out my hair like most shampoos. It's lasted me for awhile now, and it's worked really well! I hope you find the answers to your questions!

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  160. When you have longer hair, your curls will get weighed down and it won't look as good and it tends to get frizzy. I personally don't like using too much mousse in my hair because I don't like crunchy hair. If you want the simplest, non-crunchy, natural looking solution you should look into hair lotions. I use Redken products and I have a bottle of curvaceous ringlet that I scrunch all over through my damp hair and then I use tousle whip 04 soft texturizing cream for the front half/bangs for a better hold on my curls and prevent frizz. I let everything air dry. It's worked like a charm for me and it's very easy to manage.

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  161. If I need my hair to look good without product, I wet it, wash with my leave in conditioner, then blowfly with my deva curl diffuser. It has changed my life! And use clips to section off top pieces for volume!

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  162. I have the same kind of hair as you, but it was never that strange when i was a kid. I had straight red hair till i was 15 and it became super frizzy and curly! The things i do to enhance my curls (when i'm not too lazy) are:
    I keep my hair quite long, to the middle of my back (helps with the frizz)
    I wash my hair 1-2 a week (personal choice, my hair isn't oily at all) with Aveda shampoo
    I diffuse it till it's about 70% dry, it's usually quite curly at this point
    I tie it into a side braid and twist it into a bun
    Sleep on it and wake up with awesome curls :)
    I heard the Bumble and Bumble revitalising curl spray works very well, it's on my wishlist:)

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  163. Elle! Okay, so this is a little of topic, but it is so funny to hear that you would only ever wear dresses when you were younger! I was exactly the same, I absolutely refused to ever wear pants up until I was about ten (clearly I was an extremely difficult child), and I actually had matching fairy wings for most of my outfits (either dresses or skirts and shirts) for years. And ugh yes, I have nearly the same problem as you with my hair. If I go to sleep with wet hair, I wake up with some beautiful curls, but the back, or what ever side I slept on just looks awful. Please keep everyone updated if you find a solution!

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  164. I have a very similar hair story - naturallycurly.com was very helpful.

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  165. My story is very similar. Though, my hair for the most part has always been ringlet curly. And to say my hair has been unruly, definitely is a fact. The one thing I have yet to do, which has been recommended time and time again is to get a silk pillowcase. It will decrease the number of tangle knotted messes that seem to collect in the back of my scalp. Other than this, here's is my tried and true routine:
    1. Make sure your shower temp is as cold as you can handle it. (You can always switch back to a warmer temp when not applying water directly to hair.)
    2. Use a sulfate-free shampoo. Rinse out.
    3. Use a sulfate-free conditioner. Drench particular your ends in the conditioner, more is always better.
    4. Rinse out the conditioner. Make sure you're using cold water. (It doesn't matter too much with the shampoo, but it's very important for the conditioner step.)
    5. If you feel your ends need a little more moisture, add a tad of conditioner to them.
    6. Do not towel dry your hair, unless it is a microfiber one. Or if you have to use a regular towel, do not rub towel on the hair, just wrap it up to get the excess water removed.
    7. Spray water in hair where areas may have dried quicker than desired.
    8. Comb out hair with a wide tooth comb. (Also, I tend to not make an intentional part in my hair.)
    9. Flip hair over, and apply Aveda Confixor Gel. Make sure ends up to 2-3 inches from scalp has been scrunched with gel.
    10. Mix part Aveda Confixor Gel and part Be Curly Curl Enhancer. Scrunch throughout hair.
    11. If needed, add only Aveda Confixor Gel into hair once more.
    12. With a diffuser on a blow dry, heat setting should be at Warm or Cold, and Fan setting at Low or Medium.
    13. Diffuse hair section by section alternating every 3-5 min to each one in order to achieve an evenly distributed amount of diffused air to hair.
    My hair will grow out as long as I let it. Currently it is to my mid-back, and using this method above ensures my curls are not weighed down and are springy.

    Let us know what method you end up choosing.

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  166. i saw your morning hair picture and thought "that is exactly how mine looks". it's CRAZY in the morning if i wash it at night and it isn't ABSOLUTELY dry before bed--even though i use a satin pillow case.

    i've been trying out the Curly Girl Method off and on for a few months and it really makes sense! even though silicones feel good, over time they aren't good for your hair. neither are sulfates.

    one thing i found that i really liked (and am freaking out about because i can't find it at any walgreens where i live right now) is a cleansing conditioner by Salon Grafix. they have 2 formulas, and my favorite is the type with the blue label with argan oil in it. called Color Defend (but they are both good for color because there are no sulfates). i was really scared to try it at first because i have dry skin (like you) and am prone to flakes and was just worried it wouldn't CLEAN my hair or it would feel greasy, but it just felt like clean hair! not stripped, though. and it's nice because it's only one step in the shower so it feels like i'm saving time. massage it into your scalp and throughout your hair and leave it in while you do everything else and rinse well. when i couldn't find my precious at any drug store, i went to Sally's and was recommended a cleansing conditioner by Ion. EW. no. it smells like that original Jergen's smell. which some people go gaga over, but i pretty much hate, and my hair felt oily on top and was FULL of flakes. so you do have to kind of watch what you buy. the salon grafix is basically like Wen, but cost around $6-$8 instead of $60. i've never tried Wen, but have heard mixed reviews and didn't want to splurge on something if i hated it and it made my hair gross (like i'd heard some people say).

    As for products, i am switching a lot just to experiment and find what works. one mousse that i like (that i'm not sure is curly girl approved, but i'm in an "off" phase) is by Redken, called Curvacious. it smells SO. GOOD. i also really like l'oreal's beach spray from their texturizing line. and a spray curl refresher from Cantu that smells like pina coladas. i love African hair care because the ingredients are usually so natural (and it usually smells great, whatever it is), you just have to be careful about the product going well with your hair type.

    hope this helped!

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  167. i have had straight hair for all my life it is long and light brown. My boyfriend says it should be wavy but i like it more curly what should i do?

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  168. Hi! Been blushing excessively for the last 2 years even when I am not embarrassed or when i am alone too. It started due to a very embarrassing encounter when I was with my friends. Funny thing is I don't How to Stop Blushing around strangers. It happens when I am with people I know. But after reading through your tips I think I know the problem. I will definitely try out your tips. Thanks!

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  169. To get the condition of hair you want you really need to research and use the right products. Please visit http://hair-caretips.com to get the recommendations you need for the hair you want!

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  170. I do have the same type of hair. When I'm lazy and wake up like that I put it in a high ponytail.
    You can't see the top was flat and ugly and the tail is full of beautiful curls. I have long hair. Just like Blair's. I was also born with straight hair. Mine get's curlier every 6 years. I'm scared that it will turn into an afro in a few years. Nothing wrong with an afro..it's beautiful on black girls. I'm not a black beauty.. not even light brown. So I would look like a horrible wannabe haha.

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  171. But, Elle, your hair looks beautiful in the "mop photo"!!!

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  172. I have naturally curly hair that is not evenly curled (thanks dad!) but I use the john frieda 6 effects serum and straight fixation in my hair. No matter if I straighten it or leave it to dry natural it eliminates frizz and doesn't leave my hair crunchy!

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  173. My hair likes me best when I use a leave in treatment on my wet hair (I love lots of the John Frieda ones, and their curl spray is super light and helps my curls a lot), and then I sleep on my wet hair. If I let it dry before I go to bed, it frizzes and puffs and doesn't curl much.

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